How To Rekindle A Relationship with 5 Methods
Five Proven methods to help you rekindle a relationship, get the spark back and deal with intimacy issues before it’s too late.
Let's talk about that wonderful, wild journey called love. Relationships, like anything precious, can lose a bit of their spark over time. But fear not! With February the 14th approaching and Valentine’s Day around the corner, now is the perfect time to start working your relationship or to use Valentine’s day as a way to rekindle your love.
We're diving into some down-to-earth tips on how to rekindle the flame and make your connection even stronger.
Reflecting on the Journey
Acknowledging Changes and Challenges
Okay, real talk. Every relationship faces changes and challenges. Recognizing those shifts is the first step in understanding where the spark might have dimmed. Maybe you recently moved house? Introduced a new pet to the family? Got a new job?
Sometimes it’s the smallest thing, the smallest detail or change that impacts your relationship. Understanding what that is will be your best way to get back on track.
Tip: Set aside a quiet evening to chat about how life has been lately. Sometimes, just opening up can bring you closer.
The Importance of Open Communication
Imagine this: you're in the middle of a heartfelt conversation when your partner interrupts with, "What's for dinner?" Yeah, not ideal. Create a safe space for honest talks.
Tip: Try a tech-free evening. It's amazing how it can improve communication.
So put the phones AWAY, and talk. It’s sad but if this is one sided, it’ll never work. If you can identify an issue in your relationship but your partner doesn’t or wont acknowledge it, then you’ll never fix it. Both of you have to want to fix things.
Understand The Pillars of a Successful Relationship
It helps if you have an understanding of what makes a healthy relationship so you can talk through each pillar and discuss how well that’s going for you. Consider these your 4 topics of discussion. Whichever ones you both determine need work, is what you’ll focus on.
Love
Love is probably the simplest one. Do you love your partner? Does your partner love you? If not, why? Have you fallen out of love? Is there a reason for that?
They are all the questions you should be asking.
Trust
Trust seems small but it has a huge impact on the health of your relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, you need to figure out why and fix it.
Now approach this with caution. The aim is to fix your trust issues, not have your partner encourage them. What I mean by that is if your partner likes going on nights out and you don’t trust them with other people. The solution isn’t for them to just not go out anymore. You don’t just take away the thing that was the issue because in the long term, you still don’t trust them and you’ll find something else to replace it.
Another great example from modern day relationships is mobile phones. If you suspect your partner is up to no good so you peruse through there phone to try and find something, it will not settle your trust issues because if you don’t find anything, then you’ll feel so guilty for doing it that you’ll usually come up with some sad excuse as a way to comfort your own guilt. “I thought they were cheating so I went through there phone, they weren’t cheating, but I found out they were messaging someone totally platonically but they didn’t tell me, so there must be an issue… right?"
Don’t go down that rabbit hole.
I guess what it really comes down to is privacy. Privacy is important in relationships because without it you have no individuality, and it’s a slippery slope to a controlling relationship.
By getting rid of privacy you get rid of trust issues because there is nothing not to trust. But at the same time you introduce a whole new range of issues.
To approach trust issues, think about it like this;
If you don’t trust your partner, and there is a good reason. It’s up to them to comfort you and fix the issue.
If you don’t trust your partner and you have no reason to do so, perhaps it’s an ex relationship or childhood trauma, then they can’t do much about it, it’s up to you to fix it.
Communication
If you don’t talk with your partner, small issues will grow. Take some time to actually talk with your partner. About what you’re thinking, about what you want to do, about whatever! Just talk. Schedule time if you have to where you go out for dinner without distractions, without phones or T.V to force you to talk to each other.
Try putting together a couples bucket list. You’ll end up talking with your partner about a range of things you can do in your relationship.
Intimacy
Intimacy issues are probably the main killer of a relationship and for good reason. It’s the only one of these pillars that make it a relationship as opposed to something else.
What I mean by that is you can love your dad, trust your dad, and have a good line of communication with your dad. But that’s not weird is it? You’re not going to marry and have a baby with your dad. However, on the other end of the scale you may not love your dad, have terrible communication and no trust. But if you’re intimate with him, its quite weird isn’t it?
Do you see what I mean? Intimacy separates it from physical love and everything else. I love puppies but I don’t want to jump into bed with them and I’d hope you’re the same.
Now a relationship with just the intimacy is still a solid relationship, but it wont last long without everything else. All 4 pillars need to stand for the building to thrive, overwise the building will crumble.
And the longer you go without intimacy, the more difficult it is to get it back on track.
Now once you’ve figured out your personal relationship issue, go through these 5 methods to find the ones most suitable for what you’re missing.
1.Reconnecting on an Emotional Level
This is best for couples who have fallen out of love.
Rediscovering Shared Interests and Hobbies
Remember the things that brought you joy as a couple? Well it’s time to revisit them. If you really need help, try revisiting your first date. Go to the same restaurant or bar, talk about the things you spoke about then. It’s a complete re do to remind you why you loved that person in the biggening.
Tip: Think back to what you both enjoyed early in the relationship. Dust off those interests and give them another go or work through the couples bucket list.
You could also use Valentines day as an excuse to do new things together. Check out this guide on 94 things to do for Valentines Day to help come up with some ideas. It doesn’t have to be valentines either, even the Galentines list of things to do could be fun for a couple in need of some excitement.
Other things you could do to reconnect is to have a fancy home dinner or pick a weekend you’re not busy and have an at home DIY spa day.
Deepening Emotional Intimacy
Vulnerability can be scary, but it's also incredibly rewarding. Share your dreams, fears, and everything in between. My partner and I started a weekly "dream night" where we share our biggest aspirations. It's brought us closer than ever.
Tip: Plan a night where you can both open up without any judgment. You might be surprised by what you learn.
2. Revitalizing Physical Intimacy
Prioritizing Intimate Moments
Life gets hectic, and suddenly, cuddling on the couch becomes a rare luxury. As for everything else? Forget about it.
Tip: Schedule regular date nights, even if it's just a cozy evening at home. It makes a huge difference.
Communicating Desires and Expectations
Let's talk about the "I want this, you want that" dance. Have an open conversation about your physical needs. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary. Understanding each other's desires will make your physical connection much more fulfilling.
Tip: Find a quiet moment to discuss your desires and expectations. It's a game-changer.
Valentine’s day is around the corner. Why not decorate your home and dress up for your partner? Put something on they will find sexy. Do it for them, not you, then see where that goes. Check out these guides.
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3. Investing in Quality Time
Creating Meaningful Rituals and Traditions
Date nights don't have to be extravagant.
Tip: Establish simple rituals that fit into your routine. It could be as easy as a weekly game night.
Disconnecting to Reconnect
Raise your hand if you've ever tried to have a conversation with someone whose eyes are glued to a screen. Guilty as charged!
Tip: Create tech-free zones or times in your home where you can fully engage with each other.
Making the most of Valentine’s
I’ve mentioned Valentines a lot, and one extra thing you can do is really get into it and buy something to gift your partner. It’s a small thing but really helps show that even when you’re not with them, you still think of them. Check out these guides to help you;
4. Nurturing Individual Growth
Supporting Personal Development
Ever feel like you're losing yourself in the relationship? It happens. My partner and I actively support each other's personal goals. Whether it's a career move or a hobby, cheering each other on has been a game-changer.
Tip: Encourage your partner to pursue their individual goals. It adds depth to your relationship.
Maintaining Independence within Partnership
Being together doesn't mean being joined at the hip. My partner and I value our individual space. Sometimes, a night out with friends or a solo adventure is just what we need to bring fresh energy into the relationship.
Tip: Recognize and celebrate each other's need for independence. It keeps things exciting. It also gives you something more to talk about other then what needs to be done in the house.
5. Overcoming Challenges Together
Seeking Professional Guidance if Needed
Therapy isn't a last resort; it's a tool for growth.
Don't shy away from seeking professional help if you hit a roadblock. It's a sign of strength, not weakness.
Learning and Growing from Past Mistakes
We all mess up. Acknowledge mistakes, learn from them, and move forward together. It's part of the journey.
Reflecting on the Warmth and Joy of Rekindled Love
So, there you have it—a roadmap to rekindling that flame. Relationships take effort, but the beauty lies in the journey. Reflect on where you've been, rediscover each other, and most importantly, enjoy the warmth and joy of a love that's been rekindled. Here's to your flourishing relationship!
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